Thursday, February 9, 2012

How Mandi Got Her Groove Back.

Most of this is straight from my journal. It's long. It's personal. Thanks for reading.

It's been about a year since I started picking up on some personal blogging issues--

it kind of more came out in comments.

-I said to a close friend a few months back:

"I feel guilty when I'm not spending some time every day in my garage working."

-My husband teased me that I was a "busy-body". It's true. But I've never been one before, and for some reason I felt troubled.

-Char posted about "Quitting The Business Of Blogging" for the sake of her and her family. I cheered her on. And then, I imagined myself quitting blogging, and much to my surprise, I felt. . . relieved.

-Not only was I surprised by my reaction, but I was sad.  And then, I began a serious contemplation of quitting blogging alltogether.

Why I Started

I've blogged for 4 years. That's like, Jurassic Era for most blogs. And allllll that time until the last while, I've absolutely loved it.

Do you know what I wanted to do with this blog?

All I really wanted was to provide 30 seconds of mild entertainment. That's it.


So Where Did I Go Wrong?

I started imagining these imaginary people that expected me to bust out a project every other day. People. Imaginary. Expectations.

I started feeling pressure to produce crap. Every other day, I'd better come up with a project, or these imaginary people would be disappointed.

Imaginary people would stop reading me if they thought I was slacking in my project duties.

I started trying to please imaginary people, and only big (ish) projects were acceptable.
(you know, big, like train-wreck built-in beds, big)



Imaginary people are fun-suckers.

You Know What I Love?

There are so many things I love in life-- and lately only one of those things (projects) makes this blog.

You know what I love? I love to read. Know how many books I've read in the last year due to my busy-bodyness? A total of 2.

I love music. I love photography. I love eating and cooking and eating and I love mommyhood. I used to love to crapt. I don't even crapt anymore. I love all those awesome hairdo's that pop up on pinterest. I love summer. I love lemonade stands and kids and rollerskates. I love vacations. I love the crazy crap my kids say. I love childhood. I love dessert. I love snapping pictures of all things related to the above.

And you know what? Maybe I want to cook nasty crap out of my mom's old cookbook again. Just for the H of it.

I want to make an Aspic, people. (An "as-what?")


I Used To

-I used to be excited about projects just because.
-I used to love to blog just because.  I wasn't worried about pleasing people.  I didn't care if I had 1 reader or 5. 

I don't get paid for this.  This is one of my most favoritestest hobbies, until I took a wrong turn somewhere.

You know what I want?

-I want to blog again for all the fun reasons.  The reasons I used to.
-I want excitement to flow from ideas.
-I want balance.
-I want to be able to take a month on one project and not worry about what imaginary people might think on my slooooow production.
-I want my Saturday's back.  They are insane.  They're filled with both mine and my hubby's 100 projects that can't possibly be done in a day.
-I want to bring sexy back.  Er, my mojo back.  I want to enjoy what I'm doing for me, and not for imaginary people.
-I want to spend my summer focused on my kids.  No guilt -- maybe I'll build crap, and maybe I won't.
-I want to blog when I want to, and what I want to.  No timetable, no imaginary people.


To the readers I'll surely lose:

My apologies for my missteps.  My apologies for any confusion that I might be a project machine.


So, I'm taking a small bloggy break.  Gonna recoup.  Regroup.  Get my groove back. I'm bringing sexy back.

Thanks for listening.

105 comments:

Amie said...

Mandi - I read your blog because you are hysterically funny. I hope your break gives you more time for fun and family!

alesa said...

I wanted to let you know that I started following this blog for all the reasons you listed above. The projects were bonuses. You offered a little break from my mommy world and a chance to laugh at myself (and you). I hope that you will continue after you break. I can't wait until you try the aspic. Sounds nasty to me. You should read Julie and Julia and see what she has to say about the aspic. Good luck.

Bethany said...

Do what you have to do. I really love your humor and your projects are fun, but I really love your humor. So when you get back to blogging - keep being funny. K?

Dharma said...

Chic - the projects should be the *gravy*, I read you for the meat and potatoes (the funny crap you say)....

Blog at whim, I'll be checking in anyhoo ;) Let me know how you did on aspic, stuff is nasty!

Dee said...

I still heart you. I read because you're real. Because you quote movies and talk about poop. Because you are a fun momma and because we seem to like some of the same stuff. Go. Go live the way you want to. Please come back and make us snort alone in front of our computers and imagine that we are BFFs despite our never having met.

Becky said...

Life goes to fast to worry about keeping notes on all of it. Sounds like you have made a good choice. Go enjoy! Your followers will understand and be here when you decide to check in.
Good Luck!

Jen said...

Mandi. You are fantastic. I read your blog because I lurve movie quotes and your sense of humor. I have no idea how to use a nailgun, and I don't have the cajones to try putting molding on something, but I admire that you do. I love your blog, and I hope after your hiatus you will return refreshed and feeling unpressured by us imaginary/real people who love you and your blog for what you are -- real. And if your blog contains more photos, gripes/wonderments about motherhood, general state of the union, fewer projects, or whathaveyou, I'll be here to read, and love it. BEST OF LUCK to you, and LOTS OF LOVE!

Have fun storming the castle!

Maggie @ Midwestern {Sewing} Girl said...

And now I love you & your blog even more. Didn't think that was possible...

Nicki Rocky said...

Have a wondrful break Mandi. You and your family deserve time together with no pressure. Your blog entries give me a huge amount of pleasure and never fail to strike a chord, not to mention usually my funny bone! I'll be here when (or even if) you come back. xxx

Ruthie said...

I just want you to know that your the first blog on my list of blogs to check each day, but not because of your awesome projects, talented cooking abilities :), beautiful pictures, and funny stories. Well yes I guess it is, but its really because of the feeling i get when I finish your posts. I walk away...okay not really walk away... more like click away with a smile on my face. I find my self literally laughing out loud many times. You have a talent for making people laugh and feel plain happy. I don't care what you blog about. I enjoy all of your posts. Enjoy your break. You deserve it.

gochisholmsgo said...

Ditto what Ruthie and the others said! You are terrific with or without the projects. Please enjoy life and don't apologize for it!

Whimsy-ma-blog said...

I read your blog for the same reasons everyone gave above. And because you have AWESOME style. I do love your projects.

But frankly, if you posted less projects it would be really great for my self esteem. My kids are similarly aged to yours and seeing you crank out amazing thing after amazing thing every day makes me feel that I must be even more mentally and emotionally challenged than I think I am because I can't even get lunch made on time. And it's PB&J. Again.

SO have a very nice break. All the cool followers will still be here. And those other? Well, let's just give them all a hearty wave goodbye and a "Have fun stormin' the castle!"

Erica said...

I've followed your blog since the early summer and your is one of my most favorite! I love all the things you come up with and how you go about completing them! Everytime I see that you posted a new blog in my feed, I really get excited. I will continue to get excited even if you don't blog for another 3-4 months! Take your time and enjoy your life and come back to us when you want!!

Sandra Hoogland said...

I've been reading for a while and asking myself how you got all this stuff made with a family around... I started making beds, like yours above but with doors with a cute little hearts in them, before Christmas... The project is still not finished!
Because my family lives here too and they come first, real life needs you more! ♥
I love your fun look at life and really hope to read more from you after a well deserved break! Enjoy yourself and the things and above all the people that really matter!!! :)

Renee said...

I think you're awesome, blog or no blog, crapt or no crapt. I know you & your kin & am blessed for knowing ya'll! I think you are brave because you are so honest...& funny!!

Terry said...

Isn't it amazing the pressure that we put on ourselves then loose ourselves in the process? Everyone needs to take time to reflect and regroup. I will still read and enjoy your blog.

Jen Pugh said...

I just love you! I read your blog because your funny. You do create great crapt buy I enjoy your humor the most. I feel like I'm not the only one out there who is quoting random movies and geeky stuff. So thanks for sharing your personality with me. Go enjoy yourself, find that sexy and bring it back. I just wish we lived closer so that we could be best friend. (Cause we totally would be)
May the force be with you my friend.

Andrea@Sgt and Mrs Hub said...

I, for one, couldn't figure out the balance. Believe me, I tried. Five and a half years of blogging and I finally had to admit that I was done. Since then, life has felt so free! I've been able to focus on what is important to me without any nagging, guilty, not-blogging this or that or enough, thoughts. . . Admittedly, I occasionally find myself writing blog posts in my head. Old habits die hard. . . :)

Good luck, girl. I'm rooting for ya!

momof2under3 said...

Have to say, I love your projects but I read because of your sense of humor! You say all the things I think but don't say. Enjoy your kids and your hubs. Take time for yourself. We'll be here when you want to share or vent. See you then! LT

Belchamber4 said...

I am sure to laugh out loud when I read your blog! Project or no project.

The Egan 4 said...

I lurve your blog but I mostly lurve you! Your blog is NOT a typical blog with give-a-ways and/or I got this crap in the mail so I have to make something with it. That is why I lurve your blog you are real! AND HILARIOUS!! Your blog and your projects are an inspiration to us all! But first and foremost FAMILY FIRST!

You will always do projects and if it takes a month it takes a month!
We will all be here to ooh and aahh when your projects are completed!

Take a well deserved break! And I for one will be here waiting for your posts!

Layne Bushell said...

Dear Mandi,
You are amazing because of who you are, not what you do. You are proabably one of the most talented people I know. Did ya all know that Mandi is an accomplished musician? She has the sweetest heart and she is downright amazing. I'm the lucky one to know you personally. I also love your blog because what I read from it each time you post is YOU...for me it isn't about the crapt (though it's a total bonus). Come back when you want. We'll be here waiting. Because it's you we love!

Leslie said...

i love your blog! i love your sense of humor and i love your projects! if you only post once a month or once a year i will still be dedicated to reading! do whats best for you!

Mallory said...

I've told you before that I love it when you post pictures of the kiddos (especially that gorgeous red-haired baby girl), and I need nothing else from you! I like reading because you're funny, you're inspiring, and you keep it real. (What's realer than poop in a bathtub?) I'll be sticking around for awhile.

Rhiannon said...

I read your blog because i love the way you write. It's so refreshing and honest and makes me feel normal. In fact you inspired me to do my first "building" project...(don't laugh, it's just a glorified shelf!)

http://myhandcraftedhome.blogspot.com/2011/09/top-secret-project.html

But I just think you are great to read. Once a month or a week or a summer, just do what is right for you. I find when I blog because it's an obligation and not because I'm excited to, that it's not the same. Not "me".

You're awesome. And I'm a real person so I must count for at least 2 imaginary people?

Bethany @ A Fish Who Likes Flowers said...

I wish I could reach through the computer and hug you!!!

I love reading your blog, and not just because of your projects, but because I think you're an awesome and hilarious person. After the boyfriend being diagnosed with cancer last year, I always appreciate anything that can make me laugh and your blog posts, whether it's a project or random pics of your kiddos, always make me smile.

So enjoy your break... take some more pictures of those adorable kiddos and I'll be here when you decide to come back (and if you decide not to come back, I'll shed a tear or two)

Rachel said...

Take your time. No worries.

Kris said...

I always get a good smile out of your blogs. You have the ability to make everything funny and interesting. I do agree with the above coment that you make me look like a slacker when i cant even get one hallway painted and you have somehow 'molded' your entire house :-)
I always look forward to whatever you post, but totally understand the need for a break! Hope it is a good one!

Michãel said...

I have to chime in and say "ditto." I love your blog because you're funny and witty and real and funny and real and I always laugh and you're real. Thanks for being you. And no pressure about being funny. ;-)

Kimbo West said...

um. i do not accept. in all actuality...i think you should blog more. at least email me a joke everyday so i can get my mandi fix.

Libby said...

well apparently the krap you make isn't the reason you have followers!

Alas, we do have to accept this break (Kimbo! did ya hear me????) even though we may shrivel and dry up without our Mandifix (it is one word and legal in BlogScrabble)

you're on my list so I'll be able to keep a lookey out for new postings. You may even end up posting as often as I do!

Take care & laugh often.

Tracy's Trinkets and Treasures said...

Enjoy your break. Takes lots of pics and make lots of food. I will always follow your blog and if you quit blogging then we will just be fb friends. I hope when you come back you feel ok to blog as you want and not as you think people want you to. It should be fun to blog as you said. I have totally been ok to blog when I want and do projects as I feel like it. I like it that way. No pressure.

What's next said...

I agree with everyone... you're other things you want to blog about will be great to see. I found your blog first because of a photography thing...enjoy your bloggy vacation!
And I love when you want to cook out of your mom's cookbook that is like my mom's...

Cathy said...

The reason I follow your blog is because of your quirky sense of humor. You make me smile. You could quit doing projects altogether and just talk about your cute kids or the stains on your carpet and I would still follow you :)

Kendra Goodrich said...

Yey!!! I remember when I had to do the same thing for much of the same reasons and it was such a relief. I still do stuff but it's on my terms and for me, not for anyone else.

~ Laura said...

Good for you!!!

I actually enjoy you for your funny, irreverent humor...the projects are a bonus, but not one I expect!! I like it best when you blog about your kiddos!! :) Us moms like that stuff!!!

So, relax, enjoy your life and come back when it's fun again!!! :)

Nicolette @ Momnivore's Dilemma said...

Mandi-

Your way with the power tools inspires me. But the real reason I come back for more?

Your voice. Your wit.

I took a week off blogging in January. It helped me gain focus.

Don't worry so much about impressing your imaginary readers. We will come back even if you write about those other loves of yours: the photography, the baking, etc.

Maybe pulling back from all the heavy lifting of the DIY and adding more Mandi-takes-on-regular life in your blog, will help.

Some days, when I don't feel like making crapt or baking, I just talk about my kids, autism, health.
Those posts get just as much traffic at times.

Enjoy your time away. Although mine was a mere week, it gave me a lot of space to think and rethink.

calikas said...

Bring your sexy back. Take your time.

You will never lose me as a reader, although i have been a flaky reader latley. I am sorry for that.

I often thought to myself, "that Mandi chick, she does SOOO many huge projects all the time. HOW ON EARTH does she have time for all that? plus the kidos and hubby???" Take a step back. take time for yourself. you need it.
We will be here.

SoSarahSews said...

I will wait for you Mandy (cue sappy song here.)
See, I'm trying to channel your funny...I just can't do it.
You crack me up every post!
Yes, you make awesome stuff, but you're like an imaginary witty friend! (Okay, too sappy.)
Just kidding, but don't worry.
Enjoy those cute kids and your hubby!
We'll see ya when you're ready.

Mindi said...

Suppose I should have left a comment a long time ago. But now is as good a time as any. I stumbled upon your blog because of a cute project, I stayed because you speak my language. Most of the time I don't really look at the projects because I am too busy laughing at the comments. I enjoy reading your blog more than looking at it. Your sense of humor is exactly me, therefore you are hilarious. So if it doesn't interfere with your family please keep writing!

Rebecca D said...

You go and find your joy again! I've taken two bloggy breaks now, and I am very glad I did... We'll be here when you are ready to make us laugh and amaze us again!

emily s said...

I read your blog for the things you share... not the things I want. Your banter with yourself makes me laugh out loud. I don't care what you post, when you post it, or what you say... Just keep sharing. Your blog is the only one I read everyday hoping that there is a new post. And it's great to see your projects, but your comments about nothing in particular are why I have you saved in my bookmark toolbar.

Rebecca D said...

PS... Aspic (or meat jello) is gross... My grandma used to make it... Not a fond childhood memory... Make pineapple upside down cake and call it good!

Laura at Ms. Smartie Pants said...

You do what you gotta do, I'll still be here! Way to go!!!

pogonip said...

Just another blogger who loves your funny! Enjoy your blogging vacay. We'll still be here when you return!

Lisa Scibilia said...

"Don't go away mad. Just go away" remember that song????? It was Guns & Roses or something. Take a bliggity bloggity break and then come back and blog about whatever floats your boat. You don't have to do big amazing projects all the time to rock my world, you do that just by being you. No kidding, I love you and your crazy sense of humor, the awesome carpentry projects are just gravy but I mostly visit because I think in real life you'd make me laugh chocolate milk out of my nose, if, like I was drinking chocolate milk and you were talking and stuff!!!!!! Go take pictures of your kids, hang out with your boy toy, make wacky food from 1960s cookbooks, build stuff and enjoy a break and but don't go away from the blogosphere forever because I can't.even.stand.the.thought!!!! You make this world a happier place Mandi Tremayne!

anna said...

Mandi, you are one of my favorite blogs out there. You have a "special something" to the way you write that makes pretty much everything you say entertaining...no matter the subject matter. Please don't be so hard on yourself. All of us imaginary people don't care about seeing projects completed, we care about hearing from your adorable personality. Blog about what makes you happy and do it in a time schedule that makes you happy. Balance in your life is most important and I can guarantee you won't lose this reader!

UBee said...

Oh girl, I hear you! Those imaginary people are what keep me from blogging. I am the worst at coming up with imaginary expectations and feeling like I failed at some imaginary standard... and that is without the blog, I can't imagine me with a blog. I know that I fight hard to let it go in my personal life. The fact that you weren't like that before, means that you *can* get back there.

I think you need to do whatever you need to do. If that's a break, take a break. While we may... no, WILL miss you (YOU not your projects), we will be here waiting when you get back.

Here's a little secret that may make you feel better. I have a pretty full blog reader list. Sometimes I think it is too many (far too many when I don't have much time). I read the bloggers who blogged that day, and I don't think very much (at all) about the bloggers that aren't there. Maybe if I haven't heard from a blogger in a while, I start to wonder if they are OK, or just miss hearing what they have to say (your spunk!), but I have NEVER (not even once) thought that someone didn't post enough projects! I am just happy that when you (and others) do make something, that you share that with us. And I am thrilled when I do see that you have posted! So pressure from here. Enjoy your life too!!!

WhettenWild said...

Good for you. I hope it becomes fun for you again.
And now that you are taking a little time off.........maybe we can get you caught up on Downton Abbey, and get you to read Maria Snyder's Glass series =).

Just remember. Imaginary people suck. LOL

flatbanana said...

I just found you, and I put you on my top sites bookmark. Not because of the project, but because, even though I am probably twice your age and have already raised my kids, I think if we were in the same line at the grocery store, we would hit it off. You are a real person on your blog, and that is what I like it. Do what you need to do for yourself. Life is too short. Have fun. Hope to see you continue, because you are having fun.
L.E. Bruce

flatbanana said...

I just found your blog and I bookmarked it as a top site. It wasn't because of the project, but because you came across as a real person. Life is too short not to have fun. Do what you need to do, and I hope to see you here.

L. E. Bruce

LE FITNESS- Pilates, Barre, and Personal Training said...

I have always tuned in for your wit and banter. I do like your projects, but it's your personality that kept me coming back. I understand the family/time issue and wish you peace and joy as you search for your balance. I will be checking in as not to miss anything, and hope you get your sexy back.

ray of art said...

You are an amazingly funny person i'm not sure how i found your blog but i started following you mainly cause we watch the same movies :)i don't build things but i love reading your blog it just brightens my day i'm currently working on getting my blog going and hope i can do as good of a job as you!Enjoy your break!

Ashlee @ I'm Topsy Turvy said...

I did the same thing last year! I think a YEARLY reflection on where you are, where you want to be, and where you might have miss-stepped is a GREAT thing for everyone. Re-prioritizing, refocusing, etc... Don't worry, we'll still be here, we all adore you (well I do, I'm not sure about these other crazy gals ;)

Jentri said...

I need ya to know that I Lurve (love) you. I don't love you for what you write, I Love you for HOW you write, for how you tell me about your fun and crazy life. You could write about anything and as long as you kept telling it to me in the fun way that you do now I'm happy. Reading your blog makes my crappy days happy because you make me laugh, smile, and feel human...normal even.
Take a break, recoup, but PLEASE come back soon. I LOVE your writing.

Michelle Johnnie said...

I'll be here as long as you post something. your humor and voice, your pics, your projects, your inspiration will always bring me back. I think there is more in my house from your blog than any other blog out there! Thanks for all your hard work! I'm excited for you to enjoy your blog again!

Faith, Trust and Pixie Dust said...

Dear Blog Friend {'cause that's what you are to me!}, I've only been blogging for 2 years & I can already relate with some of these feelings & emotions. I totally support you in your break & when you return I'll be here happy to read about whatever you're doing. I adore your hilarious writing & I'd love you even if you didn't come up with a fabulous project every week. You're the best!

Warmly, Michelle
PS - When you're ready, please write a post to help keep this from happening to the rest of us "creative or DIY" bloggers! ;D

Mad Madam Mel said...

hi Mandi :)

I can't even remember why I started following your blog, I think it was your pantry, but you know what, that isn't why I continue to follow it, and it isn't for the DIY.

I have far too many blogs on my reader, but yours is not only on my reader but in my favorites list on the laptop so I can go straight to it if you post.
And it isn't for the DIY posts either, you just make me laugh so much I want to enjoy the post completely.

I say to hubby....

"Oh I have got to read to you Mandi's latest blog post"
"Who's mandy?"
"you know, that crazy American lady, whose blog has the picture with their trousers down"
"Oh yeah, whats she been up to?"

Have some time out, and come back and if you never post again about some project you have done it doesn't matter, we'll still be here :)

Jery said...

I can understand needing a break - but I will so look forward to your return! You have such a great style and voice. Post a project a month, or one a year - i will love them equally :)

SueAnn said...

Yes I enjoy your projects but quite frankly they made me feel so inadequate. Because I don't work that quickly.
Take that break girl and enjoy your life again. Enjoy blogging again. I read yours because of you!!
Hugs
SueAnn

Staci said...

Mandi-

I read your blog because of all those reasons you listed - and if it takes days, months, etc. to get to happiness your readers will all be here patiently waiting for your next post...whatever it may be!

You are funny as H and that's what keeps me coming back - and I promise...I will never be disappointed in your blog. Pinky swear :)

Take care!

XXOO AMY said...

you go girl! I'll always be a follower no.matter.what! whoa,that sounded a little stalker-ish, sorry. you just make me laugh, and laughing is good. just be you

Kerrye said...

(some serious cyber-love going on here, huh? it's kinda gross...) I'm another blogger who let the imaginary people get to me. It got to be too much for me, and it just wasn't fun anymore. Instead of just taking a break, I deleted my blog. This week. As in, deleted it all. Still a little dazed and in shock, and worrying still that maybe I over-reacted... Take a break! (some of us TOTALLY get it) And for the record, I have never in my life used a hammer, saw, purchased wood, or used a paintbrush. (and honestly never plan to...) The projects have NOTHING to do with why I enjoy your blog... (ok, I did hang a picture on the wall once...)

Emily said...

I totally get needing to spend time with your family. I've kinda been feeling the same way. I love your blog, it makes me laugh. But if you need to take a break then take a break and all your followers will still be here when you get back. Until you come back to the blogging world, we can read some awesome books, ( I have a ton you can borrow), listen to some great music, have some cool girls nights and take the kids out somewhere fun.

Spencer & Lorilyn Crum said...

Hey Girl, you just dos what Mandi needs to dos, because you KNOW I'll still be here when you return. And I think it's important that blogging should be fun, since it is a hobby. That's why I really hate getting paid for things I like to do. Is that weird? Because then it starts to feel like a job, I automatically don't like it anymore. I'd rather get paid for things I don't like, then have great hobbies on the side. I'm so strange.

Brianna said...

Good for you! You are shiztastic. Ima' still read yerblog...regardless.

Karen Jerread said...

A great big "Atta Girl" to you! Nothing should make you be a slave to it unless that is the only way you can feed your family. When you are ready, keep your humor coming in how ever many posts you want to do. I will be here waiting.

Heidi said...

Love your honesty and openness! Be with your family and get your love back for blogging, I'll still be here waiting for your awesomeness whether it's every other day or every other month!

Tiffany said...

You. Go. Girl. Imaginary expectations are stupid. You are awesome. El fin.

Laura @ Laura's Crafty Life said...

I think it is great you are taking a break. Do what you need to do! I am sure there are some people who read your blog just for the projects, but I bet there are just as many if not more that read your blog because you are down to earth, and funny! You don't have to be posting about a project to share that side of you! :)

Laura Grace Andry said...

I was just turned onto your blog by a fellow blogger and I have to say that your posts should be worth the wait and I will be happy to wait for your future posts. You are funny and insightful and I have enjoyed the tidbits I have had the opportunity to read. Enjoy your break. I will look forward to you bringing sexy back :)

Melanie said...

Do not even feel bad about taking a break! You get your groove back, and all of us who love your blog because your hilarity and creativity will be waiting for your return:)

Belinda said...

You Go Girl! I love reading your blog because you are real and funny! I will keep watching for new posts, but I'm proud of you for doing what is best for YOU. Imaginary people are mean! :)

Brown-Eyed Girl said...

I love that! I enjoyed your posts about life a lot more than the projects anyways. Your humor is fantastic and there used to be a point where I would read your blog out-loud to my husband and he would laugh, as well. Don't feel the pressure to be funny, but you did exactly that. You were 30 seconds of a refreshing second look on life. Can't wait for your next entry not about wood or molding!

CMT said...

I followed you because you are hilarious, make me laugh out loud, and make me imagine crazy, insane projects I would never attempt on my own....so take all the time you need and we will all be here when you get back!

Chiemi said...

Oh girl, you could post once a month and I would be waiting eagerly to hear what you have to say. Seriously, you could talk about the weather and I would be happy to read it. You're real, down to earth and I like it. I like that you don't do everything perfect and you sense of humor cracks me up. I totally want to be your bestie. Don't feel like you have to churn out projects left and right for us. Enjoy your break and take your time, cause if mama ain't happy, then nobody happy. :)

Pattie said...

Look at all your followers who just like you. You talk about stuff flying out your butt and we all laugh and it adds to our dull day. You go do your thing and we will wait cause we are kindred here. Sounds to me like you already have the balance thing figured out. :D

Pia said...

I hope a break will get your groove back! I love reading your blog because you are soo funny and irreverent. Your projects are awsome but such a small part of why I keep coming back. So have a really good time off!

KellyMac said...

I agree with these other fine ladies, the projects are just one part of you. And they should only be one part of your blog. You should definitely write about what inspires you! We'll be happy to read as the ideas come! Enjoy your fam, your crafts, your cookbook!! We'll be here when you're ready (:

The Hammers said...

I miss you already, and I just finished this post. I love love your blog. I follow you daily almost. I don't care if you post a project everyday, but please keep posting. From your biggest blog stalking fan, please don't leave us!!!

Leslie@leserleeslovesandhobbies said...

I was wondering how you were able to bust out so many projects. It was blowing my mind. Now I know. Thanks for sharing this with all of us. I am one of those random readers. I stumbled onto your blog because I somehow stumbled onto Cheri's blog, and you were partners for Crafting with the Stars. And Mandi, man, I fell in love with your writing, not all your projects. You crack me up. Sure, your projects are amazing, and we both share a mutual respect/love for Ana White, but it's your writing that brings me back for more. Every time I see a new post from you, I don't wonder what project you have cooked up and finished, etc., I wonder how you'll crack me up this time. It's the writing man, not the projects. I hope that doesn't stress you out. Make you have to be funny all the time. Just do what you love to do. We'll be here when you get back.

martha224 said...

Good for you, Mrs. Tremayne! We'll miss you, but I admire your courage.

:)

Carolyn Dennis said...

I read because you CRACK ME UP. And you do stupid stuff, and blog about it... which is REAL, not perfect, fake, beautiful all the time, "let me throw up" things.

And you post pictures of your kids that are real... like their clothes didn't come off a magazine shoot (someone else let's their kids dress themselves??? I thougth I was weird), and they have sprinkles in the corners of their mouth.

And you share your dirty floors, and counters, and help me remember that real people have dirty floors when they do fun stuff instead of cleaning.

And that fun stuff can be rootbeer floats with your kids, or building the Eiffel Tower in your living room... as long as you quote stupid movies and REAL LIFE, I'm pretty sure I'll keep reading (only pretty sure, because if I get struck by a meteor tomorrow and never come back, I don't want you to think I'm a liar).

Carolyn Dennis said...

I read because you CRACK ME UP. And you do stupid stuff, and blog about it... which is REAL, not perfect, fake, beautiful all the time, "let me throw up" things.

And you post pictures of your kids that are real... like their clothes didn't come off a magazine shoot (someone else let's their kids dress themselves??? I thougth I was weird), and they have sprinkles in the corners of their mouth.

And you share your dirty floors, and counters, and help me remember that real people have dirty floors when they do fun stuff instead of cleaning.

And that fun stuff can be rootbeer floats with your kids, or building the Eiffel Tower in your living room... as long as you quote stupid movies and REAL LIFE, I'm pretty sure I'll keep reading (only pretty sure, because if I get struck by a meteor tomorrow and never come back, I don't want you to think I'm a liar).

-Lisa said...

Justin Timberlake has nothing on you! You go get your sexy back and whenever you do a post we imaginary people will still be here and still love the crap you build and the movie quotes and the one liners about your kids and so on and so on.
Live YOUR life Mandi.
-Lisa
over at 16lstreet.blogspot.com

Lyndee said...

Good for you!! :)

Sue said...

I read this post with mixed feelings. I always believed that whatever a person does, be it crafting or blogging, being a full-time mommy or the career woman, they should be happy doing it. That part of me says "You go girl! Go do what you need/want to do." But then there's the selfish part of me that says "OMG, please come back soon!" I follow quite a few blogs, but yours is by far the most enjoyable ... it is my all-time favorite. I love your wit. Your talent is SO inspiring. And your children absolutely crack me up. You're refreshing. You're fun. I could ramble on and on, but I hope as you read through all these responses you'll see some common threads here. There's a lot of love coming your way. We enjoy and appreciate you letting us into your life. We don't want you to feel pressured into a new project every day. Personally, I prefer the real-time approach. It makes me feel a lot less like a failure. :-) While you take some well deserved time off for you, know that we'll still be here. And hopefully those imaginary people with their imaginary demands will have gone by the wayside. I think I speak for many of us when I say enjoy your time, may your mojo come back in spades, and may we hear from you again very soon.

Stephanie said...

I agree with everyone else, I read because you are funny. My favorite posts are the one's about mommy hood and life. You're projects are amazing and fun to look at it but I'm not a person who would ever be able to recreate them anyway. ;)

Anita @ GoingALittleCoastal said...

I love that you keep it real!I enjoy your honor, your photography and your projects. But blogging for YOU is more important then anything. Enjoy your break!

Teri said...

Mandi, good on you. Blogging should be something you WANT to do, not something that makes you feel anything but happy. I feel like I can relate. I stopped blogging months ago, not because I wanted to stop, exactly...but because there was so much going on in my life that it began to feel like an obligation. And now, I want to start again, but I'm feeling apprehensive in starting. I feel like I've built expectation (whose, I don't know. My own, at least) to be witty on some level, and to be honest, sometimes I just don't have that in me. In the fall, four boys from our football team were killed by a drunk driver, and that seemed to just solidify things for me. Not that this was the REASON I stopped...but my focus became supporting our kids at school and helping them to "bounce back"...and so school just started to consume my time so much more. And the longer I spent "away" from blogging, the more I felt that any comeback I might make needed to be pretty great. But really...why? Why can't I post about a book that I'm reading? Why can't I post a picture of a scrapbooking layout with minimal writing? Why can't I write something less-than-funny and just be ok with it...honestly, as long as I have one reader (my mom), I'm fine with it. Somehow, though, I built up this pressure in my own head.

I can only imagine that this pressure would feel so much stronger for you, as you have such a large readership and your projects get so much response. Take your time, my friend. Do what makes you happy. You don't have to blog for anyone but you. And by the way? I'd love to hear what you're reading. :)

This Chick said...

Good for you girl! You are by far my favorite blogger and I would hate to see you leave all together BUT you and your family are more important than anything else! You need to focus on whats best for you and yours and I will keep you in my prayers. God bless you dear!

Cathy M~(checkitoff) said...

Oh Mandi girl, I think it is wonderful that you are taking a break from blogging (crossing fingers that you are still checking your comments). I am going to miss YOU. Not your fantastic projects and cute photos of your adorable children, but YOU!! Have fun on your new adventures and please know that we adore YOU. hugs, cathy

Andrea said...

So, let me 'splain. No, there's too much. Let me sum up.
As a regular reader of your blog I have to say I read it not because of the projects (which are great) but for your sense of humor (see the above quote which you use and I LOVE IT). You are so funny and authentic. I wish we could be best friends but you live kinda far and I don't kow how I would do in a long distance friendship. I write a blog and try and be more like you real and funny. I love the pictures of your family and listening about your life not just about your projects. I list your blog on my blog as a blog I love. I think it is great that you are taking a blog break to refresh but I hope you don't leave forever I would miss you.

Alysa said...

I just randomly found your blog today through a link on someone's post that happened to be on pinterest. I look forward to poking around and seeing your projects and such. But I think I was led here for a reason today. I feel everything that you have so eloquently stated. I do have some blogging commitments that I need to keep, but the ones that really stress me out are the ones I put on myself. I need to give myself permission to chill. Only blog when inspired. The really inspired posts are the only ones that make a mark anyways, so why settle for less? Thank you for your honesty and bravery.

Heather said...

Mandi-
Long time creeper, first time commenter.
I enjoy your blog because of your ballsy projects ("See, honey! If a girl can do it, *you* can do it!") but also because you talk like my friends and I do (movie quotes, song lyrics, random hilarity).
I hope you find your groove and that it brings you back around to what you love. :)
-Heather

Stacy said...

What a relief! I wondered how you did it all - it's nice to know you're human.

I have enjoyed following your projects. Your sense of humor is terrific. And I understand why you need to reassess the blog. Your pace for projects is astonishing - you must be exhausted!

Get your sexy back. Make an Aspic.

Kerri said...

For what it's worth, while I enjoy & lust after all of your projects, I continue to read this blog because of you. Everything you have to say. Whether it be about your adorable children, hunky husband, or you've drilled a hole in your hand again, I look forward to every word. Take a breather. Read a book or 20. BTDub, Hungers Games is really good. We'll all be here when you get back.

Crafty Cousins said...

I seriously love your blog. I don't often click over from my reader, but I am for you. I usually laugh out loud on your posts. Like Labryinth David Bowie? Oh man, he's hot in a psycho way. Do what you need to do, but do what's best for you.

Carole said...

I stumbled into your blog today via Pinterest (haven't found what I came looking for yet, but that will come). I found this post and I can so relate.

I started my blog(s) for myself, as a way to write, to document my own goings-on. I didn't care much about having followers - until, I started reading about how successful blogging is measured by the number of followers. That posts should always have pictures. And that those pictures, if posted, should be perfect or not posted at all. That blogs should be 'happy and light', no heavy serious stuff. No 'real' life.

I read lots of things that stopped me in my tracks. I even tried to be something that I'm not by modeling myself after the more 'popular' bloggers.

Then I felt like I was back in high school. Who needs that? Followers are nice, comments are nice, and I've made a few friends via my blog, but those things are not the end all. Perfect photographs? Sometimes a bad photo says it all, and perfect ones aren't always an option.

I can't base my blogging abilities on everyone else. I still stumble from time to time, but that's the way of things. That's how life is. I blog for me, when I have something to say, or something to share. If someone else reads it and can relate, great. If not, I've had my say, good or bad, and released it out into the world and out of my head. lol

momofcmhl said...

I always save your blog to read last, because you know "last is best of all the game." You never fail to make me laugh. I'm so glad you blog!

COTTAG3 said...

I'm just now reading this because I have stepped back. I don't want to quit blogging. I love it but I know those imaginary people you speak of; I've met them too. So, I"m posting when I want to and when I have something to post. That's it.
I first started reading your blog because it made me laugh. It's hard to find really funny, well written blogs that have good content as well. I don't care what you post about or how often you post. I'm still reading you.

Evelyn said...

Ah, Mandi, you won't lose readers...you will surely only GAIN a ton of respect from said readers! I have wondered how in the world you manage to come up with so many posts in so little time, and frankly, while I LOVE seeing the amazing projects you do, my favorite part of your blog? YOU. Your humor, your wit, your awesome perspective. Get that groove back, girl!

Dara Lynn said...

You won't lose me! I visit for the craptastic comments you talk about...or your little "buttmunches" ...the red headed devil child...you just being you. I love your projects but I love you being you more! Take allllll the time you need!

Krista @ Craving Some Creativity said...

What an amazing mom/wife you are to step back and recognize when you need to take more time for them! They are lucky to have a mom so dedicated to them:) I love reading your blog for a little smile, almost more then a love your projects - I'll be sticking around whatever balance you find!

Audra said...

Girl...I read your blog because you are funny...like you put the FUN in FUNEEE! I love how you write because it is so much like the way I talk. The projects, well they are nice, inspirational and sometimes just a bit intimidating (for me) because you are so amazing on how you make your house a home.

I can relate to the imaginaries and not so imaginaries, had the same thoughts when I went AWOL for seven months. I had to work on me on getting better and feeling like a human again. Best.Thing.I. Did. The world will be ok if you don't blog every single day. If you don't create Showcase masterpieces out of plywood and paint every third day. The world will NOT be ok if you are not keeping us in stitches with stories of your kiddos or the beauty that is a Ice Cream Sundae Buffet for friends and family. Please remember that we the people who are your biggest and most loyal blogging stalkers will be happy if you just blog every now and then. And the imaginaries...they can go haunt someone else and leave more room for the rest of us.

Hugs!