Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Santa Can Suck It.

Yeah, you heard me.

You can call me "Scrooge", but I'm to the point where Santa can go suck it.

You see this sweet letter from my son? Yee-ah. Santa's the hero, here, and he hasn't lifted a finger to find a good price on that Simpson's game, go to Walmart at 12:00, freeze his buns off, fight a crowd, online shop, go to the store 4 times for various items, drop $400 on the whole fam dam,

wrap everything from snow boots to underwear,

night. After night. After gosh dang night. Stashing them here, there and EVERYwhere.

Are you seeing what I'm saying? All this work? Out of the love I have for my children? And the appreciation goes wherez-ats?

Not here, man.



See, I also have this thing about Santa and this whole, relatively new "Believe" thing that's going around. I think it's cute on signs 'n stuff; don't get me wrong-- and "Polar Express" is a totally rockin' movie with an excellent soundtrack by the by.

BUT, as a religious gal, I just have to ask:

Is "Believe" in reference to believing in Christ? The Savior? His birth? If it is, I love it. I'm totally on board.

If "Believe" is in reference to Santa, well then, I'm confused. See, I hate to spill the beans and everything, but, um. . .

(insert child-spoiler here)

So, I'm sorry, my brain works slowly. Let me try and work this thing out in my head:

-As religious people, we teach our children to have faith in what they cannot see.

-We want our kids to trust us.

-We teach them about honesty.

-So then we go to huge, extreme lengths to lie to them, and tell them to "BELIEVE!" in something that, in actuality, isn't true.

I think that all qualifies as a "Mixed Message", no?

Just sayin'. And I'm sorta kidding.

But only sorta.

22 comments:

Laura said...

Totally agree. I never lie when my kids ask is Santa real. I say, "sure he is, it's fun to pretend and he's in our imagination". I know it's a bummer cause my kids know early but I feel that I need my kid's to trust me. About everything.

Layne Bushell said...

I like the "magic" of Christmas morning that Santa brings. It's so exciting to see their faces light up in pure joy!. It isn't as fun once they all "know." But Santa only brings one gift in our house. Mom and Dad do the rest. So that helps to give us some of the credit. And I think the believe signs everywhere are a religious connotation. At least I read it that way. I guess you could call me a fence sitter...I'm in both worlds.

Lori said...

You know if you don't believe in Santa... you just get underwear. Now with that out of the way. I think "Santa" is about faith, not real but we believe. We have never seen Jesus, but we can talk to him and in our hearts believe. Faith.... hmmmm....

Holly said...

Santa creeps me out. I'm not the only one. See?
http://roo925.blogspot.com/2010/12/we-tell-our-children-dont-talk-to.html

Udygirl said...

I do agree with you Mandi. I know people that when they found out Santa was not real they also questioned if Christ is real. For that reason I'm not sure when/if I have kids I'll do the whole Santa thing.

Pressed Petals said...

We have always been up front with our kids about Santa. It really hit me when our dd was little and my MIL "lied" to her about Santa. I thought when are we going to tell her we've been lieing this whole time. So we just told them truth from really early.

Emily said...

I'm not going to lie, I like the whole santa thing. I think its fun for the girls, but if they were to ask me if he was real I would tell them the truth. Dave always said he would tell the girls early on that santa wasn't real.
I agree that santa shouldn't get all the credit so we give a couple of gifts from santa and then we give them the rest.
You are right about teaching them about the real reason for christmas and believing in christ I think that is important for them to learn early.

My Name's Sarah said...

Oh my gosh, I feel you! I HATE Santa Claus but I just can't bring myself to tell Henry :( Now the Easter Bunny, that's a whole different thing.

Leca Unplugged said...

I'm with you. I just can't wait until they figure it all out. I think Santa is the essance of Christ like love and giving. So I'm willing to stick it out until they get over it.

Rebecca H. said...

I hear ya and agree with ya! Santa only brings one present per child at our house,the rest are from us. Makes the kids a whole lot more appreciative for what they get. I think it will make the "Santa" game a lot less of a let down this way too.

gina3 said...

Great post! I think Santa embodies the fun, excitement, imagination of childhood. It got really fun though when my son was about 8 or 9 and pretty much figured out what was really going on but didn't want to say anything just in case he might be wrong. Now that he's almost 14, we have fun with it since everyone knows. We too didn't get my son everything he wanted. Since he's an only child, we walk a fine line between spoiling and spoiling rotten. So, a couple from Santa and we do the rest. He also has learned how to give and not just receive.

chris w said...

I'm with you. We also only do one present from Santa and the rest are from mom and dad. We did that so ours wouldn't think the kids who get 5 million presents would think Santa loved them more.

We are going to tell them when they ask too. I also talked about Santa's real job is to help us remember that we are celebrating Jesus' birthday.

Creative Decor by Brooke said...

Well, I could go on and on on this subject. I have also been on both sides. We have always only gotten one gift from Santa, I always figured if times were tuff we probably could just get one thing.
I have always been scared about them questioning if Christ is real after they find out about Santa. If I could do it again I would do it differently I think. Less about Santa and more about giving and Christ. I only have one more year before I will probably be out of the "Santa" stage. Every year I have questioned if I was doing the right thing lying to my kids. I think it could still be magical and special without Santa. I don't know.

Heidi@TheCraftMonkey said...

amen sista!

Tracy's Trinkets and Treasures/Treasured Moments said...

One summer when my son was 8 he kept asking me about Santa. It didn't feel right to carry on with it anymore and I knew he would tell anyone that Santa was real because he asked his parents and they wouldn't lie to him. In the 3rd grade I figured this thing might get discussed. So I could no longer carry on with the lie. I told him. He cried. He then asked about the Easter bunny and the Tooth Fairy. I had to tell him they were made up also. He cried some more. He never questioned Jesus. Not once. We still do Santa and the Easter Bunny. He just knows it is me and his dad that do it. He asked this year why parents lie to their kids about Santa. My husband said because it is a tradtion. Doesn't sound nice does it?

Teri said...

I think "Believe" and other phrases have become very cliche. "Live, laugh, love" is another one. The sentiments are beautiful; for example, for many, I think that simply "believing" in ANYTHING is important, as so many seem to have no faith and/or have completely lost touch with their "inner child" (to use another cliche) or whatever part of us lets us believe in the intangible, be it Santa or or simply the goodness of humanity. But these phrases have been so overmarketed and overused that they no longer bear any meaning. I join you in wondering what the impact of that might be. Do we really want them to be reduced to mere platitudes?

Hmm. Heavy. ;)

Arianne said...

amen. we also only do ONE gift from Santa, and we don't wrap our santa gifts. We also tell our kids that even though Santa brings the presents we as parents still have to pay for them. Santa sends us the bill, so not to ask for anything TOO expensive.

I am so with you on the "believe " though!!

C said...

Wow, so with you here. My parents were big Fox News fans and, since they tended to have a lot of kid-gets-kidnapped stories, terrified me about strangers. And then there came Santa.

An older man, whom I DO NOT KNOW, gets into my house at night and tries to bribe me with gifts?

Oh HELLS no.

Alissa said...

santa gets way too much credit. which is why he only brings one gift and stockings to our house. thems the breaks.

also, we don't go to extraordinary lengths... my kids have asked me if santa is real, my response, "what do you think?" so far, it's been all yes. I'm actually excited for my kids to figure it out so that they can realize how cool their mom and dad are for giving them all the stuff they have asked for.

Leserlee said...

I hear you. I wrestled with this decision for awhile, then came to the conclusion that I didn't want Christmas to be all about presents and the hottest new toy. I wanted Christmas to be about family and giving to others. So we've told our kids from the beginning (they are 2 and 4) that we give people presents because we love them and people give us presents because they love us. Just like Heavenly Father gave us Jesus and just like the Wise Men gave gifts to baby Jesus. And my 4-year-old DD is on board with the whole thing. 2-year-old son, he doesn't know better yet. But DD gets a lot more of the Santa questions from people, so I told her if people ask her what she wants from Santa, to just tell them "peace and love". Because Christmas isn't about presents. I even have a Nativity advent calendar that next year we will do a good deed every day to keep the focus more on Christ. And I also don't go to great lengths to buy lots of presents. Leave that the the grandparents. Does that make me a Scrooge? Maybe. Do I care? Nope. They still open presents on Christmas morning, and they still get toys, but they know that toys cost money and they can't have everything they want, even if they have been good. Because my kids are good. And I am blessed. And then know that I'm the one that loves them. Not some fat man in a red suit.

Marley Christensen said...

Im frightened and think we might be the same people... weird. Merry Christmas.. (Yea I know its February.)

Marley.

Josh and Emily said...

I am just reading through your blog for the first time and I totally agree. I'm not quite sure how my husband and I will handle it with our kids (just have a baby still) but I had a professor (he was a bit extreme) say that Santa was the anti-Christ because he takes the focus away from our Savior. But in a way that is true- that's not where the focus should be at all.